by Nikki Willhite
It is always sad to see people with
obviously low self-esteem. It is just as sad to see people build their
self-esteem on "sandy soil."
If someone asked you "Where do you get your
self-esteem," what would you say?
Your first thought might be to think of some of the
things that you do well, such as playing the piano. Or perhaps you would think
of some of your attributes, such as your intelligence, and go in that direction.
You might even mention your career, looks,
money or even some of the material possessions that you have accumulated.
While all of these things may be good things, and of
value to you, they should not be the source of your self-esteem.
Talents diminish, for a variety of reasons,
financial circumstances change, material possessions and money can vanish, and
disease can wipe out intelligence and other choice traits of character.
Then what are you left with?
No matter what is taken from you, there is still
"you". You are a unique creation.
THERE IS ONLY ONE OF YOU, AND THE MOST BEAUTIFUL
PART OF "YOU" IS YOUR CREATION.
Have you ever really thought about what had to
happen before you arrived for your time on earth?
Tender is the sight of a young mother holding a
newly born child. Up until the past few years, mothers' experienced intense
suffering during childbirth bringing their children into the world. However,
their love was always stronger than the pain, which was soon forgotten.
In the course of history, many a mother has
willingly given up her own life so that a child could live.
How many generations of loving mothers (and fathers)
had to precede your arrival? Do you realize the chain of love that brought you
here?
I have three sons. There are no words to describe
how much I love them. They are now married and have children of their own.
Someday those kids will have their own children and so on.
Will those children in the coming generations have
any idea how much love preceded their arrival?
Will they know how much love I feel for them as part
of my family- even though I am no longer on the earth?
You are a product of love. You are loved by people
you do not know who preceded you. Whether you are a spiritual person or not, you
cannot deny the chain of love that brought you here.
Sometimes children have parents who do not make them
feel loved. It is hard, and it does leave scars and additional challenges to
face in this lifetime.
Try and forgive your parents, if necessary, but look
at the bigger picture.
The only way you could arrive at this earth was
through sacrifice, caring, and love. You are loved.
Some day the challenges of this life will be
forgotten and left behind. The love will remain.
Think about these things. Ponder them long and hard,
and when it truly sinks in....you will know the true source of your self-esteem.
Then teach your children.
About the Author: Nikki Willhite,
mother of 3 and an interior design graduate, has been writing and publishing
articles on the topic of
frugal living for over a
decade. Visit her at
www.frugalhappyfamilies.com
- where you will find hundreds of frugal living tips and articles. Frugal
Happy Families- more than just money! Article first published at
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