I read a statement awhile ago that really bothered me. To
paraphrase, what it said was that "Everyone knows that tightwads are miserable,
I found this remark to be extremely offensive. It is just
another way our society gives us messages that are destructive to our families
and our personal finances.
Why should it be wrong to be conservative with your money? Is it
more desirable to spend on credit than to save money? Why does our society
applaud the 2 garage, 2 income, 2 vehicle, heavily mortgaged,
and consumer indebted family. What is so admirable about that?
The number one cause of divorce is money, and divorce leads to
more poverty. Poverty takes away choice.
Poverty limits education.
Poverty puts kids in daycare when it is not desired. Could this
have been avoided with more financial restraint?
I have never heard of a single case of divorce blamed on being a
spouse being a tightwad, although I'm sure there are a few extreme cases out
there. The worst thing most people can say about a tightwad is that they donít
buy everything desired by those around them, including themselves.
How sad that our society does not value those who try to
constrain their spending. I think we all know that we usually find the money for
that which we really want. There is nothing wrong with that.
You just canít have everything. If you try, you become a slave
to debt, and that is what leads to problems. That is when you have to make
serious changes in your life to try and turn it around, and breaking habits is
I applaud anyone who is able to turn their lives around after
experiencing debt and its consequences. Itís not easy.
There are many people who are trying their hardest to change
their lifestyles, trying to get out of debt, or trying to keep out of debt and
In our society, itís like pushing a train up a hill. It takes a
lot of effort, work and time. Some are at the bottom of the hill just beginning.
Others are reaching the top, soon to reach level ground where they will have a
much easier time keeping the train on the track and going in the right
I think the problem with the author of the
negative statement about tightwads is that he or she does not know what true
happiness is. Perhaps I should feel pity, nothing else. He, or she, can
keep their treasure. Iíll keep mine.